Holiday Grief: Gathering in Times of Loss and Loneliness
December 2024
Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Solstice and the winter season is a time for festivity, joy, light, and love, so naturally it’s also a time to remember and reflect on people in our lives who are no longer living — those close to us and those with with whom we’ve had fraught relationships. For those who are grieving, annual end-of-year celebrations, family gatherings, office parties, and vacations are challenging and alienating. How do you prepare yourself for this time of year? Can this be a time to repair connections to family and friends? To create new rituals and traditions? Join us for programs this month that lean into holiday grief and open opportunities to grow.
Upcoming Events
Griefhab™ presents the 2nd Annual Healing Together Through the Holidays Summit - in honor of National Grief Awareness Week.
Because no one knows there IS a National Grief Awareness Week
This world doesn’t discuss grief. Calendars don’t acknowledge National Grief Awareness Day or National Grief Awareness Week.
Holidays are surrounded by bright lights and festivities, yet millions of people struggle through complicated emotions with little or no support.
Because Grief is Invisible.
Yet it’s the one thing we’ll all experience - more than once.
Because Grief Doesn’t Discriminate.
Healing Together Through the Holidays is a 7 day Live Event (streaming worldwide!) featuring multiple speakers every day, as well as a community of others who understand. Without words!
Join us December 2nd through the 8th. Attend virtually everywhere (all times are in MST) or in person, LIVE in Northern Colorado.
Track:
Wellness, Grief, Isolation & Connection, Relationships, Identity Loss,
For so many of us, friends are as important as spouses, romantic partners, or family members. And a line is crossed when a friend is incapable or unwilling to provide support in times of crisis or loss. And if they disappear or ghost us, the grief is more pronounced because there’s no resolution or closure. Society often dismisses the heartache and grief we feel when friends ghost us or disappear and there’s no resolution. Authors Gina Moffa and Katherine Sleadd, both accomplished authors and therapists, offer a space to ask questions freely, without guilt or shame. Gina and Katherine will orient this session around the “how to’s”: practical tips to navigate friendship loss. You can view a recording of Gina and Katerine’s preceding Reimagine discussion on friendship loss here.
Gina Moffa is a licensed clinical social worker in private practice in New York City. In the field for over 20 years, Gina has helped thousands of people seeking treatment for grief and trauma, but focusing on emerging adults. As a grief therapist, she wanted to find a way to educate young people about the grief experience to help the experience to be less debilitating for the long term. With that intention, she wrote the book, Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting go: A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss (Hachette). It has been quoted in international publications, such as Forbes, TIME, USA Today, as well as features on NPR. Gina is currently working on a new book that focuses on friendship loss, as this is a topic too many struggle with in silence.
Katherine Sleadd is the author of How to Be a Bad Friend: The Hidden Life of Failed Relationships, a book about the complexity of friendships and the heartache of friend breakups. Katherine holds a Master’s degree in counseling psychology with a concentration in trauma and abuse and is a licensed therapist in Colorado. She works with people healing from relational harm and aids them in rebuilding their connection to themselves and authentic community. Kat lives with her partner and children near Boulder.
About Reimagine
Reimagine is a nonprofit organization catalyzing a uniquely powerful community–people of different backgrounds, ages, races, and faiths (and no faith) coming together in the hopes of healing ourselves and the world. We specifically support each other in facing adversity, loss, and mortality and–at our own pace– actively channeling life's biggest challenges into meaningful action and growth.
Track:
Wellness, Grief, Relationships, Holiday Grief,
Hosted every third Thursday of the month, the Reimagine community opens its arms to those navigating loss with our Room for Grief sessions. Facilitated by volunteers, these peer-led, drop-in gatherings are for you, whether you’re looking to learn about grief or seeking support in your journey. We leverage art, creativity, and prompts to foster conversation and introspection. Designed for adults across generations, Room for Grief is your safe space when you need it.
Host/Facilitator
Rhyena Halpern is a professional End of Life Doula, Death and Dying Educator, and board-certified Wellness Coach. Rhyena received certification from the University of Vermont’s Lasher School of Medicine Professional End of Life Program in 2020. She earned board certification as a Wellness Coach from the National Board of Health and Wellness Coaches in 2019 and was trained by the Functional Medicine Coaching Academy. She is also a crisis counselor for the national Crisis Text Line. Rhyena leads weekly, virtual Death Cafes for the Elizabeth Kubler Ross Foundation and Mission Hospice. The Cafes are free and open, supportive conversations about anything related to death and dying. She also teaches classes including “Spiritual Dimensions of Nearing Death” and “End of Life Intentions for Dummies, Seekers and Pragmatists” and leads study groups on classic books such as Frank Ostaseski’s “The Five Invitations.” She loves giving presentations about doula work and conscious dying. Rhyena is a member of the Chochmat Halev’s Chevra Kadisha and is especially interested in serving the Jewish community in the East Bay where she resides. She works with other Chevra Kadishas and does home taharas. Her work is an expression of her spiritual path and she is most inspired by people who want to live and die with intentionality.
In the last five years of her professional career in arts management, Rhyena began designing her own Third Act. A seed of an idea developed into an exciting plan that continued to germinate. At retirement she embarked on her Third Act full of anticipation and excitement and is now living her dream of becoming a Doula and Coach. Having her plan in place made all the difference and she is happy to work with other people to design their Third Acts.
She identifies as a JewBu, a proud ally of the LGBTQI community, and a committed social justice advocate.
Rhyena actively volunteers, studies, teaches, facilitates groups and gives presentations on the End of Life community. She writes on Medium and LinkedIn on all things related to end of life, navigating life’s transitions, dating and sexuality later in life, spirituality, and holistic health and wellness.
She is a former documentary filmmaker, public television producer, adjunct faculty member, and an arts manager in the public sector advocating for the arts and artists. In earlier years, she also worked as an artist and therapeutic massage therapist.
https://www.endoflifeguidance.org/
Community Touchstones
Confidentiality
What’s said here stays here, what’s learned here leaves here.
Everything invitational
See these questions (and this whole experience) as an invitation, not a demand. If you are moved to answer a different question than one we have listed, go for it. If you’re moved to sit and listen, that’s ok too - just being here is participating.
Speak from the heart
We’re used to speaking what we think we should, what we think others want to hear, or from ideas or stories we’ve told ourselves over and over. See if you can take risks to root into what is true and to share from that vulnerable place.
Listen from the heart
See if you can be fully present to what’s here, listening with compassion to whoever is speaking. Try on turning any judgement that arises (including judgment of yourself!) into wonder. “I wonder what brought her to this belief?” “I wonder what I don’t get?” “I wonder what my reaction teaches me about myself?” See if it’s possible to set aside judgment to listen to others—and to yourself—more deeply.
No one right way
There’s no one right way to grieve, to do this retreat, or to express yourself (for example: totally ok to cry, and totally ok not to cry). Try to reserve judgment, of others and of yourself.
Trust the silence
Take a few breaths before even thinking of responding or offering your own words. Learn to trust the silence, and to notice what arises in it. Take your time.
Cool is the enemy
Try on the idea that you (and everyone else here) totally belong. Let’s try to be an easy crowd for each other. That means presuming welcome, and extending welcome. What if we all let go of “cool”? Cool is the enemy. ;)
Share air time
Take space & make space. Groups work best when everyone has their eye on this.
Self-focus
Speak your truth in ways that respect other people’s truths. Consider using “I” statements so that you can speak from your center, instead of generalizing or making assumptions about everyone else.
No fixing, saving, advising, correcting
No need to jump in to fix anything, save anyone, or offer unsolicited advice. Trust folks’ own processes.
Focus on stories about loved ones
This is a space in which we center stories and support. If you are here to challenge or argue the safety practices of others (e.g., masking in public, vaccinations), this is not a space for you.
