Father Time

Topic: SUPERGRIEF

The Peregrine Lodge: A Virtual Retreat for Grieving Parents & Others

PEREGRINE is a new universal term to describe a parent who has outlived their beloved child.

​Join us every 1st Sunday, promptly at 1PM PST, 4pm EST Hosted by The Lost Travelers Club, and moderated ​by LTC Founder Henry-Cameron Allen, CTAA, IHTCP Certified Grief & Survival Counselor, Author of The Lost Traveler's Field Guide. RSVP

As fellow griefwalkers we will share stories, hold space, and discover new ways to honor our loved ones and our sacred paths.

​This retreat provides:

• ​A supportive empathetic community for grieving parents
• ​Opportunities to share and be heard
• ​New ways to celebrate resilience and reignite purpose

​All are welcome in this inclusive space, regardless of ethnicity, faith, physical ability, sexual orientation, or gender identity.

​Join us to connect, reimagine, and find purpose in our collective journey.

DONATE HERE TO SUPPORT THE LOST TRAVELERS CLUB: https://www.unitedcharitable.org/fsp_daf/the-lost-travelers-club/

Please join this Reimagine and Tibet House US LGBTQIA+ gathering to witness, support, and honor one another in our grief. The program will open with agreements, followed by some education, meditation, and breathwork as a foundation for peer-to-peer sharing in a safer space. This is a dedicated container by and for self-identified LGBTQIA+ people.

Pride is about showing up authentically, which can shift from one moment to the next – from celebration to grief, from connectedness to loneliness.

Facilitators will offer mindfulness and breathing practices for grounding prior to opening up space to invite in the individual and collective experiences of LGBTQIA+ community members. Our facilitators will draw from practices such as Buddhism while also weaving in queer liberation and grief work. The 60-minute container is intended as a safer space to mourn the losses of father figures on our individual and collective journey toward authentic pride.

While having cameras on is welcome for cultivating a stronger sense of community, it is OK for videos to be turned off as we want to respect each individual's personal process.

Tony Pham (Butterfly) (he/they) is a heritage Buddhist, facilitator and healer that occupies the intersection of queer & BIPOC identities. Tony is certified in Compassion Cultivation Training © (co-created by Thupten Jinpa at Stanford), teaching compassion and meditation at Tibet House US. He is a 2nd generation Vietnamese American whose parents arrived in the United States as refugees from war. Tony goes by Butterfly in spiritual spaces where they steward practices rooted in compassion, indigeneity, and sacred lineages. He is an advanced student of Lama Rod Owens (Vajrayana/Tibetan Buddhism). They are also an alumnus of the East Bay Meditation Center’s trauma informed mindfulness program & INELDA's death doula training.

Butterfly offered a Dharma talk and guided meditation about compassion at the The Dalai Lama Global Vision Summit 2023. Tony's death work was highlighted and referenced in the book, "So Sorry for Your Loss," by Dina Gachman. He now resides in Brooklyn (occupied Canarsie/Munsee Lenape land). For more information, please visit tonyopham.com.

Tiff Pham Tiff Pham (she/they) is a second-generation Vietnamese-American, queer, empath residing on unceded Ohlone land. She is a conscious relationship coach, mediator, and energy medicine practitioner at Path and Present. Tiff enjoys working with tenderhearted humans, people-pleasers, and fellow QTBIPOC folks to set boundaries, build confidence, and communicate with clarity. She is a certified coach (CPCC, ACC) and holds her Master Certification in Intuition Medicine®. In her free time, she enjoys live music, meditation, traveling, and hiking with her partner Laura, and their staffy/lab, Luna. To learn more information, please visit pathxpresent.com.

Community Touchstones

Confidentiality

What’s said here stays here, what’s learned here leaves here.

Everything invitational

See these questions (and this whole experience) as an invitation, not a demand. If you are moved to answer a different question than one we have listed, go for it. If you’re moved to sit and listen, that’s ok too - just being here is participating.

Speak from the heart

We’re used to speaking what we think we should, what we think others want to hear, or from ideas or stories we’ve told ourselves over and over. See if you can take risks to root into what is true and to share from that vulnerable place.

Listen from the heart

See if you can be fully present to what’s here, listening with compassion to whoever is speaking. Try on turning any judgement that arises (including judgment of yourself!) into wonder. “I wonder what brought her to this belief?” “I wonder what I don’t get?” “I wonder what my reaction teaches me about myself?” See if it’s possible to set aside judgment to listen to others—and to yourself—more deeply.

No one right way

There’s no one right way to grieve, to do this retreat, or to express yourself (for example: totally ok to cry, and totally ok not to cry). Try to reserve judgment, of others and of yourself.

Trust the silence

Take a few breaths before even thinking of responding or offering your own words. Learn to trust the silence, and to notice what arises in it. Take your time.

Cool is the enemy

Try on the idea that you (and everyone else here) totally belong. Let’s try to be an easy crowd for each other. That means presuming welcome, and extending welcome. What if we all let go of “cool”? Cool is the enemy. ;)

Share air time

Take space & make space. Groups work best when everyone has their eye on this.

Self-focus

Speak your truth in ways that respect other people’s truths. Consider using “I” statements so that you can speak from your center, instead of generalizing or making assumptions about everyone else.

No fixing, saving, advising, correcting

No need to jump in to fix anything, save anyone, or offer unsolicited advice. Trust folks’ own processes.

Our ancestors are always with us—guiding, supporting, and offering wisdom from beyond the veil. Even if we don’t know their names or stories, their presence can be a profound source of strength, healing, and inspiration.

In this transformative workshop, we will consciously connect with our ancestors to receive their guidance and uncover the gifts they wish to share with us.

Join psychic medium Rev. Jessica Sharp for a sacred hour of connection, reflection, and discovery.

Together, we will:

• Share our experiences and relationships with our ancestors, honoring the ways they’ve already shown up in our lives.
• Meditate in a guided journey to connect with ancestors who are here to help us, opening ourselves to receive a special gift from them.
• Reflect through on the meaning of the gift and how it might shape our path forward.
• Share and Explore as a group, discussing the gifts we’ve received and the insights they bring. Rev. Jessica will also psychically tune into the messages behind the gifts, offering clarity and deeper understanding of what our ancestors wish to communicate.

This workshop is an invitation to deepen your relationship with your ancestors, to honor their legacy, and to embrace the wisdom and support they offer. Whether you’re new to ancestral work or have been walking this path for years, this space is for you.

Come with an open heart and leave with a deeper connection to the love, guidance, and gifts your ancestors are waiting to share.

Register now to secure your spot and join us for this powerful exploration of ancestral connection.

Note: No prior experience with meditation or mediumship is required. All are welcome.

Let’s reimagine our relationship with death, life, and the eternal bond we share with those who came before us.

Register today and step into the wisdom of your ancestors.