Victoria Noe
- Chicago, Illinois
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I am here to reimagine...
I’m here to help people reimagine how we grieve when our friends die, by elevating the importance of those friendships and channeling our grief to honor them throughout our lives.
My Story
In 2006, I promised a friend before she died that I would write a book about people grieving their friends. In 2013, the first of what would be six books in the Friend Grief series was published. That work also took me back into the HIV/AIDS community after a long absence. In 2019, I published Fag Hags, Divas and Moms: The Legacy of Straight Women in the AIDS Community, the first book to honor the...
In 2006, I promised a friend before she died that I would write a book about people grieving their friends. In 2013, the first of what would be six books in the Friend Grief series was published. That work also took me back into the HIV/AIDS community after a long absence. In 2019, I published Fag Hags, Divas and Moms: The Legacy of Straight Women in the AIDS Community, the first book to honor the accomplishments of women who had been largely ignored in previous histories of the epidemic. Because of COVID, I’m back to writing about friend grief, with a particular interest in the challenges of AIDS long-term survivors who are now facing their second pandemic. What Our Friends Left Behind: Grief and Laughter in a Pandemic will be out in spring, 2023.
In 2006, I promised a friend before she died that I would write a book about people grieving their friends. In 2013, the first of what would be six books in the Friend Grief series was published. That work also took me back into the HIV/AIDS community after a long absence. In 2019, I published Fag Hags, Divas and Moms: The Legacy of Straight Women in the AIDS Community, the first book to honor the accomplishments of women who had been largely ignored in previous histories of the epidemic. Because of COVID, I’m back to writing about friend grief, with a particular interest in the challenges of AIDS long-term survivors who are now facing their second pandemic. What Our Friends Left Behind: Grief and Laughter in a Pandemic will be out in spring, 2023.
My Community Resources
"What Our Friends Left Behind"
COVID has challenged all of us to examine our attitudes toward grief. While families receive most of the consideration, the friends left behind also struggle.
Friend Grief and Men
"Be a Man."
Society expects men to take charge, get things done, and keep their emotions in check. But what happens when their best friend dies?
Friend Grief in the Workplace
They're friends and coworkers, so when they die, it's not only a personal and professional loss, but a challenge:
How can you grieve and get your work done, too?
Friend Grief and the Military
"They were killing my friends."
That was how Medal of Honor recipient Audie Murphy justified his heroic actions in World War II.
Friend Grief and 9/11
Those who were killed on September 11, 2001 left behind more than family members.
Friend Grief and AIDS
It's been likened to a plague, but AIDS was never just a health crisis.
Friend Grief and Anger
"It's not like they're family."
Sound familiar? If you're grieving the death of a friend, you've probably heard that from people who just don't get it.
