I am an individual who has come to grief work after growing up with a terminally ill parent who died before my senior year of high school. When she entered hospice, nobody told me what it was, and it took years before I found out. The cone of silence around illness, grief, death, and dying has impacted me greatly and my goal is to destroy it through open and honest emotional connections with others. This has translated into my professional life working in postvention, which is the community response that happens after a suicide death. I am also a student of queer death studies and explore the relationships to grief, death, and dying that are present among LGBTQ+ people. Together with Jackson Roach, we offer a peer-based grief support program called Lavender Loss for LGBTQ+ folks who have lost a loved one.